Day 203 - A Year to Clear - Check In WEEK 29 - Accepting and Allowing

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Lesson 203: Check In WEEK 29 - Accepting and Allowing

The week was very much about accepting your self and being present in the moment. It was a lesson of jut letting things be just as they are – not that you had to necessarily change anything but just fully acknowledging your self. How did it make you feel? What got in your way?

I felt like the blocker was just my monkey mind and all the silly thoughts that can flow through. I think the thing with self-acceptance is that it’s done in parts. You can learn to love and accept all parts of you, but it takes time. I don’t think it happens overnight. I think it’s a step by step process of you working through the characteristics, habits, patterns, qualities of you that you don’t necessarily like, you may fail to recognise or think are good, though others love you for it.

I think the meditation of really being in the now helped to calm everything down and make you realise that there’s no need to look in the past or future, but just be in the now. It’s actually hard to achieve this all the time. But the more we can stay in the present, it allows you to let go but also clear space for being more open.

Day 201 - A Year to Clear - Reflections on Acceptance

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Lesson 201: Reflections on Acceptance

Following on from the meditation, we are to use today for further reflection and complete the following sentences:

• It is safe for me to accept and allow things as they are because______

• The part of me that doesn't feel so safe accepting and allowing things as they are is______

• One thing I can do when my resisting patterns bubble up and get in my way is______

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My answers:

• It is safe for me to accept and allow things as they are because, I feel supported and I have the self-awareness to work through things at my own pace.

• The part of me that doesn't feel so safe accepting and allowing things as they are is my monkey mind that can sometimes feed self-doubt.

• One thing I can do when my resisting patterns bubble up and get in my way is take a moment to close my eyes, breathe through it, feel relaxed and then take another approach.

Day 200 - A Year to Clear - AUDIO Meditation - Accept

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Lesson 200: AUDIO Meditation - Accept

Today is about following a meditation or if you can’t access the audio meditate on the following 4 phrases:

• I am here
• I am now
• I accept
• I allow

Really take in some deep breaths and breathe in these phrases for as long as you need on each one. Be in a quiet room and just let our mind clear on each breath. Notice your feelings and emotions, notice your space, notice if you feel differently. What you want to achieve is how each of these phrases radiate out into your body, soul and mind.

I personally felt like it brought on a calmness. That I could go into nothingness whilst believing each phrase and accepting each one. I was at peace in those moments. I liked the feeling of nothing bad impacting me. Just a letting go and being free in nothingness. There isn’t really much more to explain except that it was freeing.

How did you go with the meditation?

Day 88 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - It is Difficult at First

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Lesson 88: It is Difficult at First..

Compassion for those that have hurt you isn’t an easy task to accomplish. Especially if the hurt is so deeply rooted, that even the thought of applying compassion isn’t something that crosses your mind. This act could take you some time or maybe even your whole life.

Today is all about thinking of a person who has wronged you and hurt you deeply, asking yourself if there is space for you to hold compassion for this person. It is just a consideration and not about you forcing yourself to do it. If you can hold compassion, why? If you can’t hold compassion, why not? Let the idea sit with you and really truly see what comes through.

Like I’ve mentioned before, I have had some deeply rooted pain from my father and even my mother’s ex-boyfriend. There were hurtful things that were said and heavily buried into my subconscious. Those things that were said were definitely impacting my adult life when they were buried from when I was a young and a teenager. Before I even considered hypnotherapy, I was ready to let go and apply compassion, because getting to that stage really meant taking a step back and realising that it wasn’t about me anymore. I felt sorry in a way, that these people must have their own issues to want to emotionally and mentally hurt me. There was something going on in their lives, maybe they didn’t even understand, that they had to work through. It could even boil down to them not knowing the impact of their words, or them not really understanding how their words can have holding on others.

I am not going to say that I am bigger than them, as I have come to some of my own realisations and acceptance. I just hold the belief that everyone has their own way of living, conditioned in their own ways, not self-aware nor aware of others and because we hold them against our own values, morals, idealism, we tend to want people to act in the same way – but they won’t. So, for me it’s about seeing from a different point of view, trying to have more understanding, but always applying reason in any sort of disagreement to my own way of thinking. It does take some tolerance and maybe building a thick layer of skin, but I don’t seem to get a rise of anger like I used to. I try to apply reason to every situation and know how to stick up for myself when I need to. It takes time and work, but we can tolerate a lot more than we think.

Day 88 - A Year to Clear - Breathe Into the Squirmy Stuff

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Lesson 88: Breathe Into the Squirmy Stuff

Today’s practise is all about thinking and saying out loud “I Am Enough”. I actually starting doing this at the beginning at the week and tell myself when I look at myself in the mirror. It makes a difference by beginning this at the start of the day.

You may not start to believe it when you first start saying it and you will be challenged by negative thoughts. For me, it’s really tackling those negative thoughts about yourself and really truly understanding them. It does take awareness to recognise what holds you back into truly believing that you are enough. It’s not an easy overnight you’ll be cured type of situation. I believe when you can really break down what’s holding you back, apply compassion, then you will have a foundation of where you can rise up from. “I Am Enough” will start to sink in and begin to elevate you.