Day 88 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - It is Difficult at First

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Lesson 88: It is Difficult at First..

Compassion for those that have hurt you isn’t an easy task to accomplish. Especially if the hurt is so deeply rooted, that even the thought of applying compassion isn’t something that crosses your mind. This act could take you some time or maybe even your whole life.

Today is all about thinking of a person who has wronged you and hurt you deeply, asking yourself if there is space for you to hold compassion for this person. It is just a consideration and not about you forcing yourself to do it. If you can hold compassion, why? If you can’t hold compassion, why not? Let the idea sit with you and really truly see what comes through.

Like I’ve mentioned before, I have had some deeply rooted pain from my father and even my mother’s ex-boyfriend. There were hurtful things that were said and heavily buried into my subconscious. Those things that were said were definitely impacting my adult life when they were buried from when I was a young and a teenager. Before I even considered hypnotherapy, I was ready to let go and apply compassion, because getting to that stage really meant taking a step back and realising that it wasn’t about me anymore. I felt sorry in a way, that these people must have their own issues to want to emotionally and mentally hurt me. There was something going on in their lives, maybe they didn’t even understand, that they had to work through. It could even boil down to them not knowing the impact of their words, or them not really understanding how their words can have holding on others.

I am not going to say that I am bigger than them, as I have come to some of my own realisations and acceptance. I just hold the belief that everyone has their own way of living, conditioned in their own ways, not self-aware nor aware of others and because we hold them against our own values, morals, idealism, we tend to want people to act in the same way – but they won’t. So, for me it’s about seeing from a different point of view, trying to have more understanding, but always applying reason in any sort of disagreement to my own way of thinking. It does take some tolerance and maybe building a thick layer of skin, but I don’t seem to get a rise of anger like I used to. I try to apply reason to every situation and know how to stick up for myself when I need to. It takes time and work, but we can tolerate a lot more than we think.