Day 137 - A Year to Clear - Not Allowed

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Lesson 137: Not Allowed

Once someone has said or done something towards you, it’s hard to forget what’s been said or done – wouldn’t you agree? I still remember the kids bullying me as a child and all the hurtful things they said. The power that words and actions have upon us is profound. There is no erase button for a thought that enters your mind as a result of things said or done from others, and even yourself!

Today’s lesson is all about how to ignore any comments or actions that are so powerful to cloud our minds. Stephanie Bennett Vogt’s message is “Bottom of Form

You just. Don't. Go. There.” It does sound so simple. Is it that simple though? She then proceeds to give a courtroom judge’s example of instruction when they remove a message from the record “Nope, can't use it. Sorry, not allowed.”

Honestly, this would take so much training to program your mind to let negative comments go. Even when people lace up their words with “no offence but…”, it’s a set up for a negative comment. I think for some of us, we can be reactionary. When someone says something, we may fire up and blast them for it. Other times we just soak up negative actions towards us and then we can curl into our self, and then close off. There are so many scenarios of how we as humans deal with things said or done to us. If we are to not to go there, it would take some processing on our part:–

1.       Stop and think about what’s been said.

2.       Process it in your mind so you don’t react.

3.       Accept it as something that was said or done.

4.       Don’t let it absorb further than just a comment or action.

5.       Move on.

I think with practise this can be achieved. If we are trying to not overwhelm ourselves with negativity, I think it’s a good practise. Though when you’re having some good conversation and there may be an odd comment flung here or there, would you have enough time to go through those steps in order to not absorb the comment fully? Like, if you’re so engrossed, would you want to stop or just keep the conversation flowing, taking a moment later to refer back to it? I guess this is something that you’d have to consider, or not consider, and create practises that work for you to not absorb the negative actions.

I mean, the only thing I do is visualise a protective bubble around me and I ask that of spirit and the Universe to turn anything negative towards me into something positive or useful for me, otherwise I want the negative to bounce off it and go back to the Universe. So far I’ve found this visualisation to really work for me and I don’t feel people’s negativity rubbing off on me. Maybe I’ve subconsciously not absorbed negative stuff for a while and not realised I’m already practising it.

All I can say is, try this way of trying to release negativity from you and see what it does for you. I can only imagine good things.

Day 137 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - Once You Have Gone Through...

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Lesson 137: Once You Have Gone Through These Two Particular Doors...

“Once you have gone through these two particular doors: pain and compassion, you will never go back there again. It is a one-way process, from darkness to light.”

— Sara Wiseman

I have to disagree with today’s lesson, especially in reference to the passage of pain. I do think people will go back to that part of the heart, though they may be better able to manage it. For instance, if my mother died tomorrow, I’d feel pain. To suggest that you will never go back there, as in never experience it again, is incorrect in my opinion. I know I will hurt, I know I will grieve, I know I will then move forward from it… in my own time. I understand the concept of going from darkness to light, but to suggest that all darkness is eradicated, to me, is ridiculous. I think we all need to embrace our dark side in order to learn how to move forward. To me, we will be forever going through cycles of dark and light, though to suggest that we should always remain in the light does not suggest growth to me. In fact, to me it suggests ignorance to the fact that darkness is always within us and is integral to our own make up.

I actually do not like when lessons teach the light, the light, the light. We need to acknowledge the dark side. We all have it. Sometimes it takes over for sure, but it’s in those situations that we need to feed it light, in order to maintain balance. Sure, you can just live in the light and be ignorant to the darkness, but that suggests to me that you won’t be well equipped to deal with difficult situations when they arise. It’s from the darkness we learn things about ourselves and then be able to face those challenging situations we didn’t think we could handle.

I actually like the thought of having compassion and not being any other way. I think from this lesson, that’s the part I agree with. I think if we all had more compassion, we could work better with one another. I think the world would operate in a much more peaceful state.

It’s evident here that this lesson has challenged me and I’m not about to conform to just the light side of things. I feel light and dark is a cycle – some cycles being more profound than others. I don’t think pain is something to ever get rid of. I think it’s important to feel it in order to grow. Like my example from the first paragraph, I know pain will come again one day whether I like it or not, though the way I handle it will be much better than before. This is just my opinion, and you can agree or disagree, as I know there would be a divide on a matter like this.