Day 17 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - Regrets

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Lesson 17: You may have regrets in your life...

Today’s lesson is to focus on past regrets and that this is all part of our soul growth. I truly believe that there may be bad decisions we’ve made but there is always a lesson to be gained from that experience. Sure, it might not make sense at the time, but later on when you can truly reflect, that’s when you can really develop and grow as an individual. You can start seeing from an observer’s perspective and take another stance on your actions.

In the exercise, I am to think of a past regret, holding that in my mind and considering if it’s still a regret. Am I able to love the person I was at the time and do I love the person I am now since that occurrence?

My immediate thought went to me in my twenties. I was with my ex-boyfriend and would succumb to everything he said. He really controlled me but I didn’t realise it at the time. I had dreams of travelling the world because that’s what I wanted to experience in life – other cultures, seeing how others lived, having adventures. My ex however had no interest in travelling, in fact he didn’t really like socialising, and if he did, it would only be with people he liked, and he didn’t like doing much but play computer games, staying indoors watching TV and movies. What I did allow him to do was manipulate me so that my dreams didn’t seem achievable at all – not just in travelling but with everything. A real dream crusher. What I regret is not standing up for myself and really having confidence to do what I wanted. I was so eager to please him, it was sickening. I regret not even engaging in my dreams and became a puppet. It’s something I now recognise, learned from and won’t let happen again.

Am I able to love that person I was at the time? I don’t think I loved myself at all to be honest. I don’t even know who I was back then. Do I love the person I have become since? Yes, I do. I have learned to really accept myself over the years of being single. Really focusing on myself has been the greatest thing I could ever do for myself. I think if I had jumped into another relationship, I wouldn’t have been able to have learned what I have now. I still continue to love the person I’m developing into. Every day I am learning and surprising myself at the person I am. I can only see myself elevating to new heights from here and it’s exciting.